“In my life there's been heartache and pain. I don't know if I can face it again. I can't stop now, I've traveled so far, to change this lonely life, - - I wanna know what love is, - - I want you to show me.”
This is the title and the words sung by the group “Foreigner.” As with many songs, they reflect what the heart is searching for. We create through music, art, and written words of what we experience, whether it's heartache, joy, or the search for meaning, we're all looking for a fulfilled life. But the greatest search of all mankind, is fulfillment and depths within “love.” But why is this so difficult?
We want to know what love is but it seems we need someone to show us. It’s obvious what the world shows is mostly heartache and pain. Behind all the allure and beauty of Hollywood, love shows its emptiness behind all the smiling, but hurting faces. I've even asked a friend, who explains to me, we just need to have a spirit of love, but when asked what does this truly look like, who do we look to for the ultimate display of love, their face goes blank. The search for love as in the search for truth in today’s modern culture, it's all relevant, you make it the way you want it, or wait for it to evolve. And again we ask, “I want to know what love is, Who can show me?”
I, myself, need help in displaying love to my friends, family, my wife, daughter, and parents. But like the song, I wanna know what love is, and without sounding smug - I believe I have found it, and believe me this has not been without its difficulty. As in another song, I was “looking in all the wrong places”.
Love is patient, love is kind, love doesn’t envy, it rejoices in truth, in hope, endures, and never ends. (1 Cor. 13:4-7) Love is the most unselfish act than can ever be displayed towards the one we love. This unselfish love has been given to us. Would you not be awestricken to someone who gave himself and poured out his 'love and life' towards you? No person, power on earth, nothing by man or anything else has given of itself so unselfishly towards even those who feel they least need it, but yet they're searching for it. Every human being has this heartache and wanting deep within them. Why is it we fight God and this deep love he has for us to share in? I want to know what love is; and He's there to show you. But for all of us, “true love” is a choice and not forced upon. Just as in a marriage, or anything else which asks of unselfishness, it’s faith, trust, and commitment, to the one who first loved us.
Deni Shepard — Franklin, N.C.